A Celebration of Self-Expression and Sisterhood

Jess Cartner-Morley (writer) argues that the most meaningful and fun nights to dress up are not for romantic dates, but for nights out with friends. According to Cartner-Morley, women use fashion as a way to communicate and show appreciation for one another, often without even realizing it. This phenomenon is rooted in the idea that women have developed a unique language of fashion that is deeply connected to sisterhood and mutual support.

In a society where men are often encouraged to prioritize functionality over style, Cartner-Morley suggests that women have developed a counter-narrative that values self-expression and creativity. When women dress up for a night out with friends, they are not just trying to impress, but also to connect with one another on a deeper level. This connection is built on a foundation of trust, empathy, and understanding, allowing women to feel comfortable expressing themselves freely.

This language of fashion is characterized by a willingness to express oneself freely, without fear of judgment or criticism. Women are more likely to appreciate and compliment one another’s fashion choices, often focusing on the enthusiasm and joy that goes into selecting an outfit. Whether it’s wearing bold and impractical shoes or a dress with pockets, women are more likely to be celebrated for their individuality and creativity.

Cartner-Morley highlights the significance of conversations about clothes as a means of support and cheerleading between women. When women praise one another’s fashion choices, they are often expressing their appreciation for one another’s sense of style and confidence. This language of fashion is not just about solidarity, but also about joy and self-expression. By embracing the love language of fashion, women can create a sense of community and connection that goes beyond surface-level conversations.

This connection is also deeply rooted in the idea of shared experiences and memories. When women dress up for a night out with friends, they are creating a shared experience that is tied to the clothes they wear. This can lead to lasting memories and a sense of connection that goes beyond the actual event. As Cartner-Morley puts it, “Nights out with friends, with pals who know your silly side as well as your smart side, who might rib you for wearing double leopard-print but would defend to the hilt your right to do so if anyone said a word against it, are the nights that are the most fun to get dressed for.”

In contrast, romantic dates often come with a sense of pressure and expectation. Women may feel pressure to present themselves in a certain way, to impress their partner or fit into societal norms. This can lead to a sense of anxiety and stress, rather than the joy and excitement that comes with dressing up for a night out with friends.

Ultimately, Cartner-Morley’s argument is that women’s fashion is not just about clothes, but about connection, community, and self-expression. By embracing this language of fashion, women can create a sense of sisterhood and mutual support that goes beyond surface-level conversations. As she puts it, “Fashion is a love language in female friendship. It is woven into the fabric of camaraderie between women.”